24 Jun
  • By Shawnee Doherty
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Daddy and Rhett head back to Phoenix………

Tonight was a tough one. Rhett and I are headed back to Phoenix tomorrow because I need to get back to work. Some emotions were running high, especially from the boys. I think it finally hit both of them that they were about be separated from one another for more than 21 days and they’ve never been away from each other that long. We also believe that Rhett is starting to get a better read on this situation; it’s evident that he is filling in the gaps and it’s subtly starting to show.

We’re glad that Shawnee’s mom, Donna, arrived on Wednesday because it gave the boys a little taste of home and boy to they love their GrandMa (they love their other GraMur too). Yesterday, we drove to down south to Heidelberg so the boys could see one amazing castle, one which ruins are among the most important Renaissance structures north of the Alps. The earliest portion of the castle was built before 1214! The following day, after having stayed in Heidelberg over night, we drove to the North Rhine-Westphalia state and visited the romantic Drachenfels Castle, built in the 12th century. What a view. A cave in the hill is said to have sheltered a dragon. Smaug anyone? For my Lord of the Rings fans out there. Interesting fact, the mountain that the castle was built on was quarried and from 1267, the supplied stone was used for the world famous Cologne Cathedral. After a great lunch on one of the little side streets, it was time to get back to Cologne. Needless to say, the boys had one amazing mini-trip together, discovering the nooks and crannies of some amazing castles. #mostbestdays

It’s time to now check back in with reality. My company, DMA, has been more than generous and patient with me, enabling me the opportunity to come to Cologne to see Hollis treated as well as build some memories with my family. However, I must get back to doing what I do best and that is fostering and cultivating relationships as well as delivering customized foodservice and supply chain solutions to some of the best restaurant chains in North America! Rhett will be spending most of his summer attending a few camps with maybe a quick escape out of town with Daddy but what’s crazy is that his 4th grade year starts the 2nd week of August…..wow! Shawnee and Donna will be taking care of Hollis and enjoying some quality time with one another before he begins his 2nd round of immunotherapy on July 5th. Once complete, the three of them will be flying back to Phoenix July 15th. I think so many people will be thrilled to see all of them. However, Shawnee will be turning back around and heading to Cologne July 30th with Hollis and Carrie McCahan, one of Shawnee’s closest friends and a practicing P.A., to undergo his 3rd treatment.

As a man, I’m struggling right now, knowing that I’m about to leave my wife and son alone in Germany for 3 more weeks but I have to remind myself that indeed, I am not in control. I’m just going to put this out there. I do live in fear, fearful of what the future has in store but at this very second, God reminds me that the enemy uses fear as a weapon against me. Yes, there have been moments while everyone was asleep in the apartment and I just felt completely overwhelmed with a thick shadow of darkness, controlling my every thought. I’m tempted to fear for Rhett’s future, Hollis’ life, my marriage, our extended families, I fear for my financial future, I fear for our safety.  This is the SHORT list, right? There actually is a lot we could potentially worry about. I struggle with fear and worry every day.  But through precious minutes and the smiles of my boys, I began to find that the things that send me down an anxious spiral, no longer had the same effect.

I’m often reminded of words, of life, of truth. Soaking them in, over and over, praying them out loud in my mind and heart. I tell myself that they MUST become so familiar, so familiar that they replaced the other things in my mind that I’d battle against and with. There’s nothing magical about words and verses, but there is power through them, because they’re God’s words. Anxious thoughts slowly diminish and fear let’s go of its constant grip.  And even though fear is sometimes still there, it no longer wields control, holding me back, paralyzing me in its grasp. I just rest on this: that His words are words of life, soothing to my soul, calming to my spirit, all while giving power to my days.

Leaving tomorrow at 5:45 am for the Cologne train station with Rhett, I will still feel afraid, but I can believe that God is with me. I may not be in control, but I can trust the One who is. I may not know the future, but I know the God who does.

Continued prayers for our Hollis Richard please. #HopeForHollis #MostBestDays #HISloveisamazing

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COMMENT (12)

Love you guys. Beautify writing Shane. We are thinking of you all.

Jayne Gladden (Cenci’s Mom)
June 24, 2016 3:49 pm Reply

We have been praying for all of you.,,, Praying for a Miracle of Healing for Hollis and that God would carry each one of you through each day, wrapped in His Love.

You’re a good man, Shane, and balance the needs of your family with your own, always exercising love and strength and sensitivity. That’s one incredible axis, point. Stay strong…keep that faith…and please be bolstered with the certain knowledge of the love and faith that’s put in you.

These, I know, might be simple words for much greater feelings, and I have no experience like your own to contrast. But if I had to imagine facing what you do, I know that I’d have one hell of an example to follow. Keep it up, brother.

One step at a time brother. You’re a great dad / husband. Stay strong.

Gale & Barry Shuman
June 24, 2016 5:03 pm Reply

Daily you remain in our prayers, and the love, compassion, and grace of God will comfort all of you, and calm all fears. Lamentations 3:22-24
Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed because his compassions fail not, they are new every morning, great is Your faithfulness. The Lord is my portion says my soul, therefore I hope in him.

I have never heard so much love in a written concern in my life. Shane you are one amazing father, husband, and person. I can’t imagine all the feelings and thoughts you are going through but I do know you are an inspiration to your boys and to everyone who reads your posts.
You are so right though we hold on to the one who is in control and who does hold tomorrow. I do know that God is taking care of everything with Hollis and he will bless your job and your marriage along with your future so please continue to keep your faith in the ONE who holds all things in the palm of his hand.
You and your beautiful wife have been so strong for each other and Rhett and Hollis but we will continue to pray for strength for you both and that God will help Rhett when he puts all this together.
Keep on keeping on my friend and may God continue his outpouring of blessings on you.
Love you Shane and Shawnee.

You are so right about Gods words. King David felt the same way. Psalm 19:7-8 Thanks for your words of life your sharing with all of us.

These truths are so beautifully written, so heartfelt. We continue to pray that God give you and Shawnee the strength you will need to pull together as you continue on this journey. That He comforts Rhett as he understands the gravity of Hollis’ condition and that He continue to shield Hollis from the painful symptoms that first brought this tragedy to light. Safe travels and Godspeed Doherty family! With prayer there is Hope for Hollis!

Believing wholeheartedly in the power of prayer. Trusting God, our great healer, for a miracle. Thank you for updating us, for telling us about your journey, your feelings, your struggles, your memories. We serve an awesome God. God we give you all honor, all glory and all praise…for you are so very worthy!

I know DMA has been so supportive and you will find more healing in doing what you love to do. Prayers every single day my friend. 💚💚💚

Recently sent this article to my friend with cancer. Such an encouragement! Prayers for your family continue. (FYI Tina Retts is my niece) Hope the article loads.
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